Thursday, 1:20 pm: “Hi, this is (caseworker) … so … this is that coveted call where I ask if you want Asher back.” Ironically, I had walked into his room to take the call since music was on in the main living area. I was staring at his empty little crib as I tripped over a […]
I’ve been through this before. I knew what to expect. It will hurt like hell, then get better, then get worse, again and again until you don’t know which way is up. After loosing Peanut, I was (perhaps) inappropriately optimistic for the first several days. A defense mechanism, my therapist says. I let faith in […]
Asher has been our son from the first day we held him in our arms. Ryan and I never talked in terms of “if we get to adopt Asher…..” or “if Asher is still with us.” We had planned our family with him solidly in it. Some people think foster care would be easier, healthier […]
No word yet on when/if reunification will take place. Enjoying every feeding, coo, and diaper change.
Ryan and I had a few days to freak out, burst into tears, and express our rage at DCFS’s leniency. I packed up what I would send Asher with, knowing that bio mom has nothing and no means of buying things like diapers, toys, and clothes. (Again, another reason why the trial reunification is so […]
Asher’s beautiful almond eyes and sandy skin are thanks to his Native American heritage. ICWA (The Indian Child Welfare Act) gives his tribe rights to his custody….meaning that at any time, the tribe could step in and take Asher, place him with whomever they want on the reservation, and have no accountability to the state […]
Barefoot in the Dirt 